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How to Know if a Person Truly Loves you?
There are some basic things that form the foundation of all healthy and loving relationships. Here are the top 6 ways for how to know if a person truly loves you.
1. They love themself.
A person can’t love someone else unless they love themself first. Self-love is so crucial because itequals self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-respect, and self-confidence.
Self-loving individuals know how to set healthy boundaries in relationships, and rarely if ever end up in codependent situations. They are willing to give to and please others, but not to their own detriment. They are usually good at teaching people how to treat them well, and their assuredness typically brings out the best in those around them.
They know how and when to trust others and if they love you, they will trust you.
2. They like you.. just as you are.
People who truly love other people like them as well. They experience all of their feelings for them out of choice, not beliefs of being obligated to feel a certain way about them. They respect their choices, even if they wouldn’t make the same for themselves. The best love starts out as like– someone who you would want to be friends with.
Most importantly when a person truly loves you, they love and like the version of you now. All of you. And they can live with the things they don’t particularly like about you. They aren’t gambling on some version of you they are hoping you will change into – or that they will change you into. Bottom line: If someone keeps on needing things about you to change as a condition for them to “love you,” they probably don’t truly love “you” to begin with.
3. They want the best for you.
And they are thrilled when you succeed. When someone truly loves you, they admire you. They are not jealous of your achievements, and they don’t see you as competition. If they do, it suggests they have self-esteem issues. A person who truly loves someone does not feel threatened by that person, who they are, and their accomplishments. Rather, they are inspired and elevated by that person, and vice versa.
4. They fight for your relationship.
The opposite of love isn’t hate – it’s indifference. People who love each other actually want the relationship. They care. They don’t like seeing one or the other person unhappy. And they are willing to talk things out and try to work through disagreements and arguments.
It may not always have an ideal ending. But when you love someone, you are willing to put in the time, energy, and effort to see if you can make things right. Effort involves action, which as I said is the main requirement in conveying true love to someone.
5. They want to share in your world.
When a person truly loves you, they want to get to know and spend time with people who are important to you – like your friends or close family members.
They also want to occasionally share in your interests and passions in life, even if they don’t personally take interest. So they may occasionally go with you to the latest Hugh Grant rom-com or play-off hockey game, instead of insisting you go with your friends.
All of this shows they are interested in knowing all of you, and experiencing what else brings you joy in life together.
Love is a whirlwind of adventures. Adventures composed of consecutive moments that bring different emotions. Emotions that trigger decision. Decision to either fight, hustle, gamble, risk, breathe, rest, love, hate, hold on or let go. You can fight for each other as much as you can. Like what they say, if you love them, never leave them, chase them, fight and be with them no matter what.
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